argument

08/05/09

Mum & dad quarrel yesterday night.... for the same matter again.... no matter it's 20s or 40s, the problems are just the same ... y we women aways are the one who are wrong in the argument... y men neva appreciate....they always claim that we are the one who start the fight... yes.. men r always right....they are always very busy as they got big business to do... but women nowadays not working huh? & besides working, women will still have a lot of other things to do...says if women are not exist in the world..who is the one who cook? who help men to give birth & suffer all the pain? who is the one that do your laundry? who is the one that help u wash dishes? perhaps u can say ur mum, ur wife, ur gf, or ur maid.... but dun forget, even ur maid is a woman too...

Actually i'm quite contradicted recently... i got this feeling of getting married but at the same time no confidence in marriage... for my case... he normally claims that only he will be very busy when his buyer is in malaysia but what i see now is even his buyer is not in malaysia, he will still have to work till 11-12 almost everyday... outstation, meet supplier, qc representative, station one unplug... besides working, he will still have his soccer time...even though not all the time he go but the reason that he dun go is normally because he needs to work... 

If i dun get married, i just dunno y i will feel so unsecure in this relationship but if get married... is it means that everynight i have to stay in th double storey house a lone after work? or stay at my mum or his mum house till he is back....?? mayb he is right... i really need to get someone that work 9-5.. then after that can accompany me.. mayb not side by side stick together but at least i'm not alone.....

now when i see my parent is still arguing on the same problem... i just dunno y suddenly feel so disappointed in relationship..wondering will us also the same in 40s? or 60s? or even worse... should i let go even though i know i can't......................................................

Everlasting love??

04/03/09

Dun everytime also make me feel like i shall let u go coz the reason of it's hard for me to be with u, i sincerely try to be patient with u and tolerate with wht u hope from me... but have u do anything for me?? pls understand what i need... or, leave me alone..

Everlasting love??

1. Courtship stage wherein you know him/her from top to bottom. Know everything about his/her life, goals, dreams, hobbies, family, strengths, weaknesses... pretty much everything about him. A key step to having a lasting relationship is knowing your partner absolutely 100%. Same thing goes for you wherein you let your partner know you 100%.

2. Trust is also key in a everlasting relationship. Never ever doubt your partner. Always believe in him/her with proper reasons. Trust him/her during in times of trouble within your relationship.

3. Communication is an essential thing in a relationship. Always talk with each other about things that happened for the both of you everyday. It is much better in person than in a call or text. This builds up your relationship.

4. Do not entertain any other guy/girl if you have a current relationship. Stick with only the guy/girl you are currently with. The point of this is commitment. Commitment is essential in an everlasting relationship. Being committed in a relationship tells so much about a person which is being a solid person in his/her relationship. To be with your partner forever. Also in Marriage, a commitment is important to make your marriage last until death.

5. Always have a day in a week wherein you will be together for a day (at least). It would be much better if you will allot a time everyday wherein you will be together. This is important because in marriage you will always be together forever. So better start it earlier in your relationship.

6. Be honest with each other. Always tell the truth to each other. Even when there are unwanted consequences you should still tell the truth.

7. Love. Let me define love first. Love is the highest form of self-giving to another person. You give yourself to the person you love to the point that you will be with him/her until death. Love him/her until the end.

8. Marriage. You and your partner should be married in the sacrament of Matrimony. This entails that you become one. Meaning you and your partner own each other as husband and wife. This is to permanently seal your relationship until death in front of God.

9. Have a same spiritual life together. Ensure that you both have the same religion so that there would be no conflicts in your ideas in the midst of your relationship.

10. Do not have sexual intercourse for the sake of pleasure. Sexual intercourse should only be done for the sake of begetting children for your family. With both of you willingly accepting it and not forcing it. Sexual Intercourse for the sake of pleasure makes your relationship like objects. You use each other as objects for pleasure only. You objectify yourself and your partner instead of valuing the person you love for who he/she is.

Source(s):
College Education.

应该放弃了吗？

03/03/09

今天KL下起2009年到目前为止最大的雨，让很多地方水灾，PWTC就是其中一个，而因为MIFF今年只在PWTC举行，所以他＆他爸爸的车都是水灾的"受害者"！

在车里回家途中，就听到KK他们说到处都水灾，听到PWTC水灾的时候，我更加担心他的情况(这时我的手机偏偏没电，所以还没有知道他的情况）。一回到家，果然就如我所料的，车都被水淹了！！

之后就在电话上大概了解是什么状况，只讲了一会儿，他就忙着挂电话了，也没有很清楚抓到车的情况如何了，只能从他MMS过来的照片有个大概。

之后我就一直在忙自己的事情，有好几次打电话问他需不需要我驾车去找他，我知道自己是不能帮上什么忙可是总是会想去看看，八卦吧。。。可是他却一直说不用，我assumed他是担心我的安全吧，毕竟我对KL路又不熟。

一直到12点半他才真正的打回给我告诉我他回到家了(也是我send了sms过去之后），然后跟我share他车和PWTC那里的情况，可是我越听就越辛苦，我很讨厌这种感觉。3年了4个月了，但我还是有被left out的感觉，大家都在期待着同样的事情， 我总是没办法得到后看到我期待的事情，他家里的事情我也是每次最后一个知道的。不过家里的事就算了，但现在关系到他的，我却没办法像其他人那样看到满心期待的东西。

我真的不想那么看不开，可是我真的很累很累了，我也很想像Sophia那样结婚生小孩，可是我可以吗？每天只是我在主动地提出要结婚生小孩，现在我真的累了，尤其是做工以后，更觉得其实结不结婚对我来说已经没有那么大的影响力了，我甚至可以说，其实我一直在想着我们是不是不应该在回一起，所以那天脱下戒指过后到今天，我都没有把戒指套上过。可是我觉得他一定不会注意到这种小事情吧。。。

拼命告诉自己再哭下去，他也不会打回来；他的车已经很麻烦了，所以不要再给他麻烦了，所以真的很庆幸自己有做工，至少我不用担心自己明天会胡思乱想而让自己伤心难过。

同时我现在也告诉自己说，我只会再等8个月，如果今年的anniversary我等不到我想要的期待，我发誓，我会真真正正放弃这段爱情。

看，原本应该12点睡觉的，可是现在这样子，可能3点都没有办法睡，已经是1.51am了，希望眼睛可以快点消肿就好，其他的什么都不想想了。。。